How to discuss with my partner?

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Asking my partner to get tested

The best time to talk about STI Testing is before you start having any sexual contact with your partner. Talking about testing might make you feel weird or uncomfortable. But your partner might be happy that you brought the topic. It just says you care for your health and your partner’s too. 

Some of the ways you can bring up this topic are :

  1. “Hey, let’s get ourselves tested for STIs”
  2. “I am concerned about our physical health. I want to take care by getting ourselves tested”
  3. “I read about STIs and their impact on health. I want us to be safe. Shall we get tested together?”
  4. “We can enjoy sex better when we know we are safe” 

 

You or your partner can have an STI for years and might not know it at all if it turns out to be asymptomatic. The only way to confirm is to get tested regularly. Most of the STIs are curable with medication. So the earlier you get yourself diagnosed, the better!

I tested positive

It is not easy to discuss your test results with your partner. But it is the right thing to do to keep your partner safe. They might panic, have a lot of questions. Keep yourself informed about STIs from authentic sources to answer your partner’s questions. Most of the STIs are curable with a proper dose of medication. Even if the STI you contracted is incurable, there are medicines to keep the symptoms/outbreaks under control.

  • You might have contracted the STI from the current partner or previous partner. 
  • Your previous partner might have contracted STI from you.

 

Either way, it would be best if you informed your previous partners so that they can get themselves tested.

Consult a doctor along with your partner to understand the further course of action about treatment. Your partner might also have to take medication. Avoid any sexual activity until your doctor says so. Discuss safe sexual practices to keep yourself safe.

My partner tested positive

Don’t assume that your partner is cheating on you. It is common to have strong emotions and urge to play the blame game. But your partner might have contracted an STI from their previous partner and the symptoms are showing up now.

Most of the STIs are curable with a proper dose of medication. Even if the STI you contracted is incurable, there are medicines to keep the symptoms/outbreaks under control. 

Consult your doctor to understand the treatment process and support your partner to overcome the condition. Once you and your partner start the treatment, it has to be followed through. Abstinence has to be maintained as per doctors direction for approximately 7 days after the medication is complete. Ask your doctor about retesting. This will ensure that the treatment worked.